While this question startled those who had never experienced his candor before, it always served to remind his staff and colleagues of his patient's post-operative reality and his sensitivity to it. Invariably, his post-op visit would be concluded with "Ya know, you're gonna be alright."
And ya know, more often than not, he was usually right.
Needless to say, he made quite an impression with people over the years. No one worked harder or worked crazier hours: transplant services, heart attacks, shootings and motor vehicle accidents have a way of doing that to you.
But he was always a man who lead by example, never from above.
But later in the evening there came a point where this man wanted to say a few words of thanks himself to those with whom he had had the pleasure to work with over the many, many years. As he said, "There are two ways to talk about things like this, one a somber, melancholic reflection and what this all means, or as I'd like to prefer right now, a reflective, more lighthearted way. I think I'll stick with the more lighthearted way tonight."
He reached in to his pocket and pulled a small green notecard, but dusk had given way to dark at the outdoor affair and reading was nearly impossible. Several people sprang forth with a Tiki-torch and and a flashlight app to assist his vision because everyone wanted to hear what he might say.
"Thank you all for coming. It is wonderful to see so many colleagues, nurses, trainees, and former patients here. My wife will soon be happy knowing that hers will be the only woman's voice that I'll be talking to in the middle of the night from now on."When the laughter subsided, he continued:
"I'd like to share a few aphorisms with you. For those unfamiliar with what an aphorism is, it's a little saying that usually has a meaning that goes beyond the saying itself. They're what has guided me and things that I want to leave with you.Thank you, John, for everything.
First, medicine is a contact sport. It's one thing to get in there and play the game, but more often than not you're going to get knocked down. It's how people get back up and overcome their disappointments that will determine their success.
Second, medicine is a full-time job. Medicine knows no day and no night. Time in medicine is not measured in minutes or hours, it is measured in years.
Third, have courage. Try new things. Stretch yourself. There will come times when you have to do things that no one else will. Have courage.
Fourth, when you call me in the middle of the night remember, keep the 'crit over 30 and I'll sign just about anything you want in the morning.
Also, I've found a little saying that works pretty well in the ICU when I sign out to my team and colleagues at 10PM: "Go ahead, take the rest of the night off."
Finally, if you remember nothing else, remember this:
You're in charge."
Oh, and one more thing: